Much of this sounds reasonable, direct and respectful. I would, however, comment on one item. It is true that all events are not open invitation. One should not assume oneself invited to everything. I do belive, though others may not share my opinion, that you shold extend your comfort somewhat and invite others that you may not like. I believe this is the loving way. It is easy to be kind to ones friends, and harder to be kind to annoying. I like to think I practice this ideal. Most all events that I hold are understood to be open. However, going back to the point with which I began, one cannot require another to invite someone and invitations should not be assumed open.